Recent Blooming

This is in bloom now again and so is the baby. It has a wonderful colour and fragrance. I simply love the intense darkness of the colouration.

More New Developments

Seems like these days there are lots of new developments. First of all...377a did not get repealed. Next, my friend who wanted to distance herself from certain people, brought all of them to her new forum and basically distanced herself from the ones that planted the seed in her mind in the first place about gays.

Next, looks like lots of couples have been having problems in their relationships recently. First, the people I was talking about in my previous post regarding the drunk guy at the party, they broke up after that incident. Another friend of mine is also having problems with his partner too. I wonder if it is all coincidental or something is in the air.

Went club hopping on Friday night with friends and had a nice time just hanging out.

Lovely Evening

Yesterday I was invited to attend a talk followed by dinner at the Botanical Gardens by the China Society. The theme of the evening was Lotus so all the dishes were cooked using different parts of the Lotus plant. We even had tea brewed from the Lotus leaves which was really wonderful and aromatic...(I didn't know it could be done...hahaha). All in all, the evening was really wonderful as the hostess was in top form and made sure everyone enjoyed themselves.

At Least Something

At least something positive came about today as the Admin that I mentioned in my previous posting has been removed. To me its a small step in the right direction as removing the source of the problem does ease the tension alittle.

Problems Again

There have been issues raise about a forum I belong to. According to the "Netiquette" (Rules & Regulations) of the forum, no political comments or racial or religious comments would be allowed on the forum. However an Admin of that same forum violated the rules by trying to push his own agenda on 377a with a link to the online petition to retain it. He has so far not admitted to doing any wrong and refuses to apologise to the members. I for one think that he should be made aware of his mistake and he should take responsibility for it. Instead so far he has not done so which does say alot of his character.

For a man his age, he should have known better as not everyone on the forum shares his view on such matters. He aggrevated the situation by not thinking of others but his own personal agenda.

Total Embarrassment....

I was invited to a party at a mutual friend's place on Saturday night...so I went with 2 other friends. There were juices and alcohol served and one of my friends decided to help himself to the alcohol. It was a nice laid back kind of party with music and all. Nice conversation and meeting new people at the party too. After having one too many alcoholic drinks, this friend of mine passed out. He had to be carried to the sofa where he subsequently vomitted on. It was a total embarrassment to me as well as my other friend. Firstly, if he could not hold his liquor, he should not be drinking so much. My friend and I had to carry him to the bathroom to clean him up as well as to change his shirt. Then to also clean the sofa as the host was totally unhappy about the whole thing. After cleaning him up, we decided to take him home as the host did not want him there at all, so we had to drag him out as he was too heavy to carry...(total dead-weight).

I for one was angry with him and it was not even my party. I totally do not agree with someone drinking himself silly and passing out for others to clean up after. We had to take a cab all the way to his home and ask his parents to help us bring him up...then taking the same cab all the way back home again.

I am still angry with this person so for now I have stopped all contact with him. My family also agrees that I should stop all communication or association too. My other friend's mum has also made me promise to help keep that person away from her son (my friend) too. It is out in our network on what has happened and everyone agrees on the decision to stay clear of that person.

New Developments...

It seems that there is an online petition to keep 377a going around. I was forwarded a link to it to sign. I have not signed it on the basis that this law simply does not uphold the rights of these people but telling them that they are criminals for being who they are.

I know some of my friends are adamant that you can change your sexual orientation as it is all about choices. I hear where they are coming from but also the fact still remains is that, why are we trying to force them to change by saying that they are "criminals"? Would you like someone to regulate your sex life by saying that it is unlawful?

However, I am not saying that someone who preys on children for their sexual kicks, or if a person forces someone else into having sex with them should not be punished. Those people should be punished to the fullest extent of the law. All I am saying is that, why are we putting gays in the same group? If both are consenting adults, should the law come between that? 377a is telling them that they are criminals because they have a different sexual orientation. All of them are normal everyday people, only thing different is that they prefer someone of the same gender as them.

Would it be so disastrous if 377a was abolished?

Went Clubbing

On Friday night, my friends and I went for dinner then decided to go clubbing. I have not gone clubbing for at least 3 years so felt like a "fish out of water" for awhile. After having a drink, was able to relax and soak in my surroundings. It was an interesting thing to be in a club after so long but it was nice to just relax and talk with my friends. The music was not too loud so it was just nice to chat....kinda cool I thought. What made me even more relaxed was that this was the first time I went in a club where I don't smell cigarette smoke....kinda refreshing.

Again....

Well...what else is new...that my manhood has been called into question again cos I seem to be pro-gay. I just believe that I have come to accept people as who they are and not just label them. This is also to say that I respect their rights as a human being too. People are more than just straight or gay, male or female, white, black or asian. There are also characters and feelings behind that. However far we have come as a civilisation and society, we still have not grown to accept people as who they are.

New Things...

After talking to one of my friends on her decision, she is standing firm on the basis of the character of the other party. I cannot really blame her for her stand as she is a mother protecting her family, but she is willing to overcome it and still be friends with the other party. I can now only hope the other party will also overcome whatever it is and work on some middle ground.

However I will stand firm that I will not be forced to choose between my friends. I treasure the friendships that I've made so I will still stay impartial between the 2 of them.

Lots of Things Happening

Well looks like lots of things have been put in motion at the present moment. I've made a decision not to put myself in the middle of things but just stay a distance away from it. Although it does involve me to a certain extent as a friend. I just wish people would just put aside their differences and let things be as they were before....(I know this is a very naive way of thinking). Who cares if a person is straight or gay, male or female. It only matters if you accept a person as a friend knowing what you know beforehand, you should accept the person as a whole and not based on what you want that person to be. No one should befriend someone just to change that person. In the end, you loose sight of what drew you to befriend that person in the first place.

Friendships that are not treasured are fragile and easy to loose. I always thought that the friendships that you make over time should be stronger than whatever that comes between the 2 parties if it was true friendship to begin with. If it was only a "fair-weathered" friendship to begin with, then who gives a hoot. Why do people judge their friends based on superficial things rather than the character of the person? It only belittles the friendship that has been made. If the thinking of such closed-minded people are left to their own devices, what will the world come to be?

I'm happy for the friends that I have now but am sad to see factions beginning to form that threaten things. I do hope that the whole situation will come to pass and both parties put aside their differences and just accept each other. People should make an effort to know the true person behind all the superficial veils. Behind all that glitz may lie a person you would treasure as a good friend, if you just give that person half a chance.

One of my doggies...

Hi Guys

Thought I would share a pic of one of my doggies - Hammie. He is a silky terrier, 6 years old and have been with us since he was a month old. He came to us as a gift when the previous owner's dog gave birth to 4 pups. Hammie was the runt of the litter but he was so adorable so we choose him. He is now all grown up and really likes to "kiss" people on the lips and also lick your face all over till you laugh. The blue tint you see on the hair on his head was done by the hairstylis at the salon near my place. He loves to go for walks there and have made friends with the stylis. So one day, one of them decided to give him a playful highlight. I think it looks kinda cool...hehehe.